Happy Cancer Girl

A Happy Girls Journey with Cancer

My Cancer Story

on January 15, 2013

Hi everyone, welcome to my blog. My name is Renee and I am going to use this blog as my outlet and to share my story. I don’t even really know where to start, so I will start with the basics. I am 32 and have recently been diagnosed with endometriod cancer which is a type of ovarian cancer.

I wanted to create a blog because I haven’t been able to find anyone out in the cyber world who is my age and going through ovarian cancer. The few blogs I have found have been a little negative, and I get it but I’m a happy person and I will not let cancer change that about me.

In Febraury of 2012 I had a routine exam done by my family doctor. After the exam he told me that he felt a pelvic mass and would like to send me for an ultrasound. He also decided to send me to a gynaecologist.

In March I had an ultrasound that showed a 12 cm cyst on one of my ovaries. The doctor suspected endometriosis and decided to wait for 3 months so that another ultrasound could be done. In the mean time I had lots of blood work and a slew of other tests because on top of everything else I was having a hard time getting pregnant.

Fast forward to June, I had another ultrasound and went back to see the gynaecologist. The cyst at this point had been classed as a classic chocolate cyst which is common with people who have endometriosis. The only thing to do was schedule a laprascopy surgery where the doctor would remove the cyst and have a look around to diagnose the endometriosis.

In November I went to the hospital for day surgery to remove the cyst. When I woke from the surgery I was told the surgery took a lot longer then was expected. There was a hard mass that had to be removed and sent to pathology. The mass was unusual, but it was not cancer, but they did remove my ovary along with the endometriosis that I have. The doctor said my husband and I would have to do IVF in order to get pregnant and that we should probably look at doing IVF in about 6 months.

I wasn’t scheduled to go back to see the gynaecologist for another 6 weeks, but my appointment was bumped up a couple weeks. We thought it was probably so the doctor could go on holidays sooner. Once Owen (my husband) and I got to the doctor’s office, we were shown pictures from the surgery. It was gross and interesting all at the same time! It turns out the mass that was removed was sent to Toronto for a second opinion. The opinion being that I have cancer. I was shocked to say the least. I had a long list of questions that I wanted to ask about IVF…cancer hadn’t even crossed my mind.

We were given a week to take the information in. During that week we made lots of phone calls. It’s a strange thing to have to call your parents and in-laws and sisters and aunts and uncles to tell them that you have just been diagnosed with ovarian cancer. Never in my wildest dreams did I think cancer would happen to me. The weeks after diagnoses Owen and I went to Halifax to the Nova Scotia Cancer Centre. It was strange sitting in a waiting room with people who were in various stages of hair loss and sickness. One of the biggest things I noticed was I was the youngest person sitting there.

When we met with the gynaecological oncologist we were prepared with a lot of questions. It turns out I have cancer because I have stage 4 endometriosis and sometimes endometriosis causes cancer. No one suspected cancer because I am young and it is rare that a 32 year old would get ovarian cancer. So what can we do? Well we can try chemo and then do IVF, but there is no data on what would happen. Will the IVF drugs make the cancer worse? It’s really hard to say. The other option is to have a total hysterectomy with the removal of my remaining ovary and then chemo. How does a person even chose between two really crappy options? No babies, or babies but maybe a shorter life. We decided to do the hysterectomy…and now we wait.

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56 responses to “My Cancer Story

  1. Patsy says:

    I love you, Nay. You’re a strong woman, you got this! *huge hugs* When you need an ear, mine are always ready for you ❤

  2. Danielle says:

    Thinking of you Renee!

  3. Tanya McNutt says:

    I don’t know you but my cousin Krissy posted this and I must say you are an amazing lady and couple. Prayers sent to you. After all this is done you can always adopt a child that needs a loving home. Take care of yourself and keep that positive attitude. It will get you through alot in the coming days. God Bless you.

  4. Stephanie says:

    What a crazy story Renee!! You’re such a strong person!! Keep up with the blogs:)

  5. Amelia Kirkpatrick says:

    Love your blog…it keeps us all updated and you can tell it once and not have to repeat the info so many times…that could get a little depressing…this way we can be positive and talk about good stuff with you too.

  6. Sherry says:

    Rene, been thinking of you a lot lately. You are very strong and will get through this. You have a lot of people pulling for you. Just remember that we’re here for whatever you need.

  7. Gwen says:

    Hi Renee! I saw this post on Krissy’s Facebook and wanted to say how much I admire your bravery and vulnerability. Also, have you heard of Kris Carr? (http://kriscarr.com/) Her work is amazing, and she took a really positive approach to stabilizing her incurable cancer. Sending love and light! xo

  8. Sue says:

    I am not surprised to see you still keeping positive through everything. I hadn’t heard anything regarding what was going on and how you were doing and the last time we were together you were still smiling and happy – same Renee as always. I will be thinking about you and throwing lots of positive vibes your way.

  9. Danielle S. says:

    First off LOVE the name of your blog 🙂 that is the sure fire way to beat anything right! A positive attitude and your strength will make all the difference Renee! I’ll send all my happy thoughts your way 🙂

    • Ha thanks Danielle. Owen and I talked about what a good blog name would be because I am happy. Of course I’m not happy that I have cancer, but I can still be happy with cancer. A positive attitude is half the battle after all. 🙂

  10. Anita Finnamore says:

    Hi Renee. Praying for you every day, You are a very strong person and I know you are going to beat this. Love Anita

  11. Suzanne Poirier says:

    Renee, not only are you strong and courageous, you are smart – getting out all your info, as well as your feelings, on a blog is genius. Distance has its problems, but please know that all of us in Ottawa keep you both in our thoughts and prayers.

    • Thanks Aunt Suzie, I am shocked at how many people have read my blog today it is amazing and will keep me going! I like that I am going to be able to keep everyone who wants to know how I am in the loop. The distance between our families suck but the good thing about prayers is they can be said from anywhere. 🙂

  12. zcher says:

    I also have a type of cancer that noone would even think of at my age. I was diagnosed with colon cancer at 42 years old, stage 4, meaning it was in my body from my late 20s, early 30s. I totally agree that remaining positive is an important part of the healing process. You will have days when you are down, but each day is a new opportunity for life and gratitude.

  13. Helene says:

    Praying for you Renee! I had a friend that had cancer and she always said I have cancer but cancer doesn’t have me. Keeping a positive attitude is one of the best things you can do.
    Love ya!

  14. Your positive attitude is an inspiration for all, sending healing prayers your way.

  15. Erin says:

    Thinking of you everyday Renee. I am glad your happy girl personality hasn’t changed. PS I need to call you and will soon:)
    Love you
    Erin

  16. sherry kirkpatrick morton says:

    Hi Sweet girl, this is an amazing way to get it out and not have to repeat yourself constantly.One of the Lady’s from my prayer group asked me about you last it’s nice to know that people that don’t even know you are praying for your healing every day.God is our healer. Love you much Auntie Sherry

  17. Carrie says:

    You’re an amazing, inspiring woman Renee! The blog is a great idea and I love the positive message – Robbie and I are both sending healing vibes and love over your way. Stay strong!

  18. Pam says:

    Renee: I know how strong and motivated you can be. I know you will beat this and please know im cheering you on. Keep that positive attitude up. Pam

  19. Coleen says:

    Ok Happygirl this does not seem possible…I had no idea….I will certainally be thinking of you…..My babysitter that drove the car that the boy’s did not think they could go in for it was not a FORD……You are young and a very strong young lady and have a very loving family with all that in your favor YOU WILL BEAT THIS……..

  20. lindsay says:

    Hi renee u probably don’t know me but I went to school with rach and I am very sorry for what’s going on in ur life…I think u have chose the right option from ur story,because there others ways for u and ur husband to become parents…I have a very close friend that has endimetriosis and she has gone thru several surgeries and has pieces cut from her cervix that were cancerous and just had another surgery this past monday….Hope everything works out well for u (hugs)

  21. randy says:

    sending you positive energy, love n hugs

  22. Theresa Finnamore says:

    I just read your blog Renee and I wanted to say that right off you have three really important traits –your happiness, your positivity and your age. Our prayers are with you and keep those positive thoughts–wishing you only the very best! Theresa & Wilfred

  23. sarah bromley brewer says:

    Hey Renee, saw the link to this on the news feed. God I hate that its things like this that get people to reconnect. Know i am thinking of you and wishing you well!

  24. Rebeccah Sarchfield says:

    Hey Renee, I saw your blog on Janets facebook page. I am not sure if it would be any help but I have gone thru a similar type of cancer and beat it as well, anytime you need to vent or talk I am willing to lend and ear. Take care and sending prayers:)

  25. heather says:

    Hey Renee..I also had endometrial cancer that developed after a long battle with endrometriosis at the age of 29. I was fortunate in that I had just finished having a healthy son when it was discovered. I had a complete hysterectomy at age 30. It was hard at the time but luckily with surgery and treatment I am a healthy almost 50 (March) year old today. It changed the way I lived my life and what my priorities are. Good luck with everything…this will only be a moment in your life when you look back. Take care and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

  26. Emma says:

    Hello Renee…..we have not met but Kora introduced me to your blog. I have been through my own cancer story which began when I was 35. I just turned 43 on Jan. 17th. I had cervical cancer. You can find me on facebook as Emma Glenda Cunningham if you would like to correspond 🙂 Take good care. Emma

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