Happy Cancer Girl

A Happy Girls Journey with Cancer

Surgery Sucks

on March 4, 2013

February 20th was my D-day, the day I lost my female reproductive system. I had to be at the hospital for 8:00 am to register, my surgery was scheduled for 11:15. We sat around waiting, me in a johnny shirt, everyone filled with nervous energy. The nurses talked to me, took blood, talked with me some more and then sent me to wait. Owen and I were able to meet with the surgeon before surgery and ask a few questions, then it was time to go. I had to walk to the operating room, a part of me wanted to turn around and run. In the operating room I laid down on the narrowest table I have ever seen. They use belts to make sure you don’t fall off. Then it was action time, plugging me into machines, setting up iv’s, giving me drugs and all at the same time everyone in the room was very reassuring.

I woke up in recovery, moaning and in pain, 10/10 pain, drugs…so many drugs, 5/10 pain, more drugs, I couldn’t feel a thing.

I was wheeled to my room after a few hours in recovery, they washed me up, called it the spa (told Owen and my parents they were putting me through the car wash). Finally I was allowed to see my family…I don’t really remember much from the night, I think they were with me a few hours before it was time for them to leave.

What was removed? My ovaries, fallopian tubes, uterus, cervix, fatty layer over the bladder, biopsies of the pelvic wall and washings. They didn’t have to remove any of my lymph nodes. The surgery went well and it didn’t look like the cancer had spread!

The next two days were drug filled, dilaudid was my name. I couldn’t keep my eyes open, I was in and out, but wasn’t feeling any pain. I had visitor’s, I’m sorry I missed them. I remember them coming to see me and wanted to talk but just couldn’t do it. Poppy, thank you for coming, I know that Owen appreciated having you there. I also loved the little stuffed puppy, I actually cuddled it a lot when I was alone. Karen, thanks for coming, I know I only said hi, but my mom was so grateful for having you there with her. The blanket you gave me is lovely and will be used often! Geoff and Jamie, Owen and I owe you so much. The use of your home while we are in Halifax, the lovely flowers and the time you spent at the hospital, you have been so kind to us. Thank you!

On Saturday they stopped giving me dilaudid and started to give me Tylenol 3’s, I was so happy. Yes I felt more pain, but I was able to sit up and have a conversation with Owen and my parents. I don’t think I slept a wink that day after sleeping for almost 3 day’s straight. Poppy, Robert and two of my favourite munchkins came to visit and I was able to stay awake and talk with them! I was able to get out of bed, see straight and walk the hall to the little kitchen where they had popsicles. I needed something to cool me down….because when they took out my reproductive system my body went into instant menopause. Ladies…surgical menopause sucks! Hotflashes are terrible, and get this there are hot flashes and there is another thing they call an ember burn, it’s a slow burn that lasts for about 30 minutes, well hello ember burn…you suck! Because my type of cancer is hormonal I am not able to take hormone replacement therapy, but they do have another drug that I am able to take that seems to be working.

Sunday I was released, sent home! The drive home wasn’t too bad, I think there were still traces of dilaudid in my system. Once I got home I was given 20 T3’s, not many to get me through the next few days. I also had to deal with the brain fog and lack of concentration.

Thursday I went to have my staples removed, unfortunately I had a reaction to the staples and didn’t heal as well as I should have. The doctor ended up stitching up most of my incision. Friday was a bad day, I was feeling sore and terrible that I’m not healing very well. It was sad and depressing. Saturday came and I started to feel better, my appetite returned and I was able to sit up longer. Sunday was a great day, I was feeling better and feel as though I have turned a corner. I received cards and gifts in the mail, and had food dropped off, everything just made my day that much better!

A big thank you to my parents! They came with Owen and I to the hospital, the days were long for everyone. Since I’ve been home my mom has been staying with me. She has been such a big help. When my dad isn’t working, he’s here also, it’s nice to have the company. He also brought my nephew down for March break, I love spending time with Karston even if we can’t do the things that we normally do when he is here to visit.

Now that I am feeling a bit better I am going to try to blog more! I have a few weeks before chemo starts, I haven’t got the exact date yet, that will be my next hurdle.

30 responses to “Surgery Sucks

  1. Jessica says:

    so happy to hear the surgery was a success. we’re thinking of you buddy, hope you’re up and dancing in your kitchen real soon ❤

  2. Amanda says:

    Hey Girl! I am so glad to hear you are doing better! I wanna stop over soon to visit…let me know if a week or so when is a good time…I dont want to overwhelm you as I am sure there are lots of peeps around 🙂 I am sooo glad your ok ❤ miss you!!

  3. goldeygrad97 says:

    I am going to recommend 800 ius of vitamin e and a b-complex to help with the hot flashes. And poise makes some menopause wipes that really help. Also, I never go to bed with out a cold bottle of water and a cold compress. Feel better!

    • Thanks I will look into that!!! I can’t use the poise products because they are scented, however I do have cold compresses that I have bought and am taking to be with me!! I’m kind of dreading summer…but hopefully I will be more under control by then!!!

      How are you feeling? I’m so happy your chemo is done!!

  4. K Cook says:

    So glad everything went well. You are such an inspiration Renee. Stay strong and keep that beautiful smile going…. you are still here and still fighting! Big hugs woman.

  5. Danielle Hey says:

    Hi Renee,
    I’ve been following your blog since my friends Lori and Gayle told me about you. I found out that I had endometrial cancer in February. Had the complete hysterectomy this past Wednesday, just got out of hospital yesterday. After the surgery, the surgeon said that I also had ovarian cancer, and took 4 lymph nodes out. So I wanted to tell you that your blog has been informative, since I’m following a familiar path. So thanks for the blog(you’re a good writer by the way), and I’m looking forward to meet you(I had just joined the book club before I became aware of my cancer).

    • Hi Danielle. Lori told me about your diagnosis and told me she gave you my blog and information. I hope that you are recovering nicely. I’m glad you will be joining book club, it’s been really nice to meet such amazing ladies from Grand Bay. Thanks for reading my blog, I have found it helpful to write what I’m going through. Who knows, maybe we’ll get lucky and will have chemo on the same day!

  6. Kristin says:

    Hey Renee, Just wanted to say you are an inspiration! Stay strong, I’m thinking of you girl!

  7. janna says:

    glad to hear you made it through Renee! your amazing! keep smiling 🙂

  8. so glad ur doing better Renee, thoughts and prayers with you every step of the way,wishing you nothing but the best of luck,tell ur mom @dad we say hi, you are in good hands your mom and dad and family will be there to help you,and hugs,

  9. Jamie says:

    Glad to hear you made it home alright and the pain is getting better. I was cringing at the thought of the drive back to NB. I hope the rest of your healing goes well and I have my fingers crossed for that pathology report.

    • Thanks Jamie, I was worried about the drive also, but my skin was pretty numb so I didn’t feel too much! We may be down in April for an appointment, but I’m not sure yet as I can do my 6 week checkup here. If we do have to come down, we will let you know! Thanks again for your house, you guys have been too kind!

  10. Sherry says:

    You amaze me! Glad to hear that you are doing well. I was sending positive thoughts your way. :).

  11. Julie P says:

    You are one tough cookie Renee! Thinking of you and how brave you are.

  12. Susy says:

    been reading and wishing the best for you always! thanks for sharing Renee, this bog was an awesome idea!

  13. Im glad you are on the road to recovery. Well done you!

  14. So glad to hear you made it through surgery and are on the mend. I am going in for my hysterectomy in a week. Your courage inspires me.

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