Happy Cancer Girl

A Happy Girls Journey with Cancer

My List for Living

on May 23, 2013

When I was first diagnosed with cancer I felt alone because the doctors told me that women my age don’t usually get cancer. I was upset and of course wondered “Why me?”, not that I would wish for this to happen to anyone else. Once I started my blog, I was able to find more women who were also going through their own health journeys, some have cancer, some of had to have hysterectomies and some suffer from endometriosis and many other health issues.

Helen Fawkes has a blog that I follow and one day she posted a List for Living. She had a list of all the things that she would like to do while she is alive. When I read her list, I thought it was genius. I’m not a big fan of the term “Bucket List”. A list of things to do before you die, it seems so negative. Yes we all live and then we die, but we should enjoy whatever time that we have while we are here. Helen’s list for living seemed to be a positive thing. A list of things to live for, a list of things to do while she is living.

I have created my own list for living. Some of the things I want to do will require lots of time, some will require me to save lots of money, and some of the things I may be able to do sooner rather then later. I’m sure I will add to the list as time goes on and I may not be able to do everything I want to do, but it’s a good list of things that I can work on! I would encourage everyone to make a list for living, we all need something positive in our lives to work on and look forward too.

1. Run the Disney Princess Half Marathon – My goal is to run this race in 2015

2. Learn how to play piano

3. Write a book and get it published – I think this is something that a lot of people say that they would like to to. I have received a lot of great feedback on my blog and it has really encouraged me to think more seriously about writing a book.

4. Learn how to knit – Update June 26, 2013 – I have finished some beginners projects. I know how to do the knit stitch and the purl stitch. I will call this done once I know how to knit socks and hats!!

5. Go on a volunteer mission

6. Volunteer for the Canadian Cancer Society

7. Go on a Survive and Thrive Expedition – Survive and Thrive Expeditions are for young adult cancer survivors. When I found out about this company I was overwhelmed at the possibility of being able to go on one of the expeditions and meeting people who are close to my age and have gone through their own cancer journeys. I really hope I can do the Grand Canyon rafting expedition in 2014.

8. Go grape stomping

9. Watch someone give birth – This may seem a little weird, but because I will never be able to experience child birth myself, I have a desire to be able to experience it with someone else. Who knows if this will ever happen, but it would mean a lot to me if it does!

10. Build a house by the bay

11. Go skinny dipping

12. Get a survivor tattoo

13. Ride a jet ski

14. Learn conversational Spanish

15. Learn ASL

16. Find a career that makes me happy – They say people go through many career changes in their lives, and this has been true for me. I have longed over the past couple of years to find something that truly makes me happy and I think I’m actually starting to figure out what that career would be.

17. See the Red Woods with Owen

18. Learn how to ride a motorcycle

19. See Justin Timberlake in concert

20. Go to France and see the Eiffel Tower

21. Go to England and visit Buckingham Palace

22. Go to Amsterdam and cruise the canals

23. Go to Oktoberfest in Germany

24. Drive on the autobahn – I like to drive fast sometimes and think it would be super fun to drive on this highway!

25. Go on a waking tour of castles in Ireland

26. Go to Scotland and tour the Highlands

27. Eat pizza in Italy

28. Have fondu in Switzerland

29. Visit the Greek Islands

30. Swim with dolphins – I hope to be able to do this in Feb. 2014. My trip to Cuba was cancelled this year because of my surgery, so I hope to reschedule for this winter.

31. Travel across Canada in a car/camper van

32. Travel across the USA in a car/camper van

33. Take part in The Color Run

15 responses to “My List for Living

  1. Aunt Mimi says:

    Love your list for living with all the adventures to look forward to !
    I like the way you have set a time-line for “living” to do in the near future.
    Keep on keeping on,
    Love, Aunt Mimi

    • The list will take lots of time, but that’s what is so exciting about it! I have started knitting, I’m working on my first project, it won’t be perfect, but it’s fun! As for the traveling, I can’t wait for the trips that I will be able to take soon. 🙂

  2. Hi, I hope you are feeling ok in between treatments.
    I love your list for living, and I am now appreciating the benefits of living in Britain and having lots of sights to see on my door step! My list for living would include moving to Canada, because I travelled across it and back again, including Dawson City in the Yukon, and it was awesome! You are very lucky to live in such a beautiful country. I also want to join a choir ( but not a religious one) get a dog and write a successful children’s book( which seems easy, but I’ve tried it and it’s not). I want to get a tatoo of a smiley sun on the bottom of my big toe so nobody sees it unless I’ve got my feet up, then it’s a nice surprise. On the knitting front, you should try finger knitting, it’s soooooooo easy and it’s a nice start to actual knitting. Look it up on tube. I’ve been finger knitting mad recently to stem the bordem of recovery. Xxx

    • I think you are also lucky to live in Britain, it has always been one of the top places I would love to visit. I love Canada, and I’m truly grateful to live here, especially with all of the medical treatment I have needed in the past year, but it would be great to see other places!! You should get a dog, they are lovely creatures and make wonderful fur babies! My dog is a cocker spaniel and she is so loving and cuddly. I don’t know how I would get through my treatments with out her. She’s always by my side and joins me for my afternoon naps. I love the idea of a tattoo on the bottom of your toe!! If you do it please send a picture. 🙂 I looked up finger knitting, it looks interesting. I bought a book on how to knit and have started the knit stitch and am working on a little bag. It’s fun so far! I hope you are feeling well!

  3. Poppy says:

    Renee, I love this list idea. Thank you for sharing. Much nicer than a “bucket list” So more elegant!

    I can help you with the knitting when you are feeling up to it if no other knitter gets to you first! I even did some knitting on the boat this weekend. That might be something else to do while Owen fishes (besides of course watching him fish)!

    • Aunt Mimi says:

      Poppy, looked into finger knitting under Google……..WOW…now that looks like fun and love the colorful projects the is shows. This would be prefect for Renee, or any beginner knitter, to start with b/c it would knit up quickly to see the finished product.

      • Poppy says:

        Ok, so I checked the finger knitting out too. Renee, it looks like a lot of fun and so rewarding. A great way to work with some really soft cushy yarn. I am looking forward to try it with the kids. My younger one is frustrated with regular knitting, this might be a good “gateway” for her! Thanks, ladies, for the idea.

    • Hey Poppy, thanks for the knitting offer. Owen and I were at your parents a couple weekends ago and Beth and I sat and knit for a bit. I bought a book and am working on a small bag for my first project. The hardest thing was learning how to cast on, the book shows many ways but the way it recommended seemed a bit more difficult and I learned a different way for now. The bag only uses the knit stitch and it is going ok. I messed up a bit but for my first try I think it’s pretty awesome! I’m sure I will bug you in the future though because my real goal is to knit socks and hats!! Knitting on the boat will be nice I’m sure. I hope I get some boat time this summer. Hope you guys are well, give the kids a hug and kiss for me. 🙂

  4. Yep, finger knitting is lovely, the only problem is knowing what to do with all the strands of knitting you end up with. I found this website
    It has some nice ideas about making braclets and not using all fingers, just using 2 or 3 for different effects. Oh, yes I’ve been finger knitting like crazy! I keep trying to make a snood but my sewing is rubbish so it never works out:(

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  6. Sasha says:

    How did I miss this post when you originally posted it?? Lol
    I love your list! Mine would be very similar to yours. I think you can accomplish all of those things. I have a friend who let me watch her give birth & it was such an emotional experience for me, I really hope you get the chance to do that!
    Hope you’re doing ok this week 🙂

    • Hey Sasha! I’m sure someday, somehow I will see someone give birth! It would be a wonderful experience and the only way for me to experience child birth. Traveling will be lots of fun too!!!

  7. Amanda says:

    Great idea! Have you heard of Maggie Mason of Might Girl? She started a… “movement,” I guess I’ll call it, quite a while ago called the “Life List.” She, too, liked that better than “Bucket List.” And with a few other women, she created Go Mighty, a place to make and share your list of life goals. They say “Go Mighty is for people who want to connect and collaborate to do something good for themselves and others.” I think you’d like it! And it’s cool, because you can helo other people with their goals, they can help you, and you can get sponsors to help make your goals happen!
    Anyway, you can find Maggie at mightygirl.com and Go Mighty at gomighty.com. I hope you like them!

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